Gottman Couples Therapy

I have been a couples therapist for many years. In the recent past I have added to my skills by training up to Level 3 (final level) in Gottman Couples Therapy and I now use Gottman methods in my work with couples which people say is helpful, as its evidence based. I help couples for example with the following issues: arguments; infertility issues; in-law issues; when one partner has a difficulty eg, depression or is addicted to a substance or behaviour; after an affair, and so on.

What is Gottman Couples therapy?

Drs John and Julie Gottman U.S.based therapists, have developed a research based therapy methodology to manage conflict in relationships. Gottman therapy enables couples to become better friends, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. Couples can accomplish this by paying attention to what they call the Sound Relationship House, or the nine components of healthy relationships.

For an appointment to come to deal with your couple relationship you can contact me here.

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What does a Gottman couples therapist do?

Through research-based interventions and exercises, Certified Gottman Therapists help couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy.

What can a couple expect when they come for help to a therapist?

When couples come to a therapist they are often pretty stressed out.

They can expect to hear that they are normal and that conflict and the things they are experiencing are normal as well. What is important is for the therapist to make them feel comfortable in realising that conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.

How do you help the couples overcome their own set of problems?

Following a comprehensive meeting with the couple, I then tailor make a treatment plan that is unique to them. I use research based tools, things that have been proven to work, based on 40 years of Gottman research on real couples and how they work through real problems. I coach couples through those tools so that they begin to do it by themselves.

You can look at some of John and Julie Gottman’s work on YouTube. Look at for example “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”, where John Gottman talks about the attitudes which cause disruption in a relationship.

I also provide couples workshops for those who do not want to come to therapy but just want to come to learn more about the key principles to make a relationship work. Love can last a lifetime but it does not happen automatically. It takes some work. During the workshop, couples get to hear some of the key principles to making a relationship work better and get to practice some of the dialogues offered by the Gottman Programme.